Decisions, Friends and 'Happily Ever After'
January 17, 2009
I made my decision three years ago. Perhaps it's the new and strange environment that is making me recoil now. I told two of my friends about it, and then I told my mum about it. Mum says I will appreciate my decision in the long run, and asks me to persevere.
Perseverence is not exactly a virtue of mine, I suppose. But I have to learn. I'm no longer thirteen and no longer able to just run away whenever a problem arises. I have to endure, and hopefully, able to fight my way through and emerge as a victor. Thankfully, I still have you guys to help me pull through.
When I pass you in the corridors, see you during recess or meet up in the morning, I feel a comforting sense of relief. In short, I have three insane people to help me keep my sanity. =) Friends. How they make your life a whole lot better.
But then again, there are those who:
1. Have no idea what it takes to be a friend.
2. Have no idea how to be a friend.
3. Adopt a superficial impression of what a friend should be like.
I won't say that I am the 'best kind of friend' anyone can have, because I'm not, and I'm still learning how to be a better friend. But there are those who think they do, when in truth they see friends as people who are useful to them, people who help them jump on the bandwagon to popularity, which at the end of the day is just a fraud sense of security in which teenagers blanket themselves.
Then you have those who just move from a friend to another. It's the 'Oh, whatever's convenient' concept. The 'incovenient' friend is later dumped into the garbage can with a thunderous clank.
But whatever floats your boat.
If you decide to be pretentious with yourself and your friends, I won't be the one standing in your way and get blamed when your reputation is not flying sky-high.
To me, everyday is a new day where I learn how to be a more thoughful and less selfish friend. Everyday I try my best not to turn into someone who is horrendously f.ake.
To my Chinese friends, Happy Chinese New Year! =)
The Carmenata.
Krystal Gustafson said:
This is a good post, and happy new year to you too. :) I have to agree alot of people don't know how to be a friend 
YinMay Yap said:
you girl, is the wisest girl in your age I've ever met. those 2 friends of yours, cherish them. it's a blessing to have friends like that. HAPPY CHINESE NEW YEAR! Ang powssss *rubs palms* 
Laura Maniscalco said:
even if you have one true friend, that'll keep your sanity.
friendship is selflessness. if someone is selfish, they're not true.
great blog! you're 100% right. 
Carmen Khoo said:
Krystal: Thank you. =) Yeah I know. But thankfully, I think we girls have better intuition and we can sort of sense who's to be trusted and who cannot be. ;; May: I'm not wise, just writing based on experience and observation. Haha yes! I'm looking forward to collecting them too! When you get married ... make sure you give me yeah? =D ;; Laura: Yeah that's true. Good friends are hard to find. Once you know you have yours, all you got to do is be a friend in return and keep them close to you. =) 
